Doe, a deer, a female deer…

Nearly twice in one day. Whatever will you do?

I went to go see Kingsman: The Secret Service tonight. I enjoyed it! However, I had thought for the briefest of moments that perhaps my 11-year-old would enjoy it. And that’s a giant NO. Not even remotely appropriate, and I was bombarded with horror movie previews. But the characters were fun, it wasn’t your usual spy movie (but it had enough of what I usually enjoy to be entertaining), and Colin Firth. Yes.

On my way home, I drove and was inspired to write. That happens after movies, I don’t know why. It’s a small percent of why I go see movies, although it does come in last (popcorn, movie, inspiration, in that order). I turned off the radio about halfway home, and occasionally remembered to watch for animals. (Spotting a wild animal trying to cross the road at the same time I’m trying to drive on it is not uncommon.) When I passed the gas station and got ready to cross the small bridge that separates the Borough from the Township, I was not surprised to see a small deer (doe? young buck? unknown).

Deer are definitely flight animals. There’s really no fight in them. So when faced with the blinding shiny things that probably are associated with “crunch”, “squeal”, and “splat” for the poor animal, she did what deer do.



(And I had no idea how much fun it is to use that word correctly!)

The deer was on the bridge. Not next to it, on it. Not exactly the center, but close enough that she didn’t think to run around the edge and down the slope.

She jumped off the bridge.

It was very, very graceful. She didn’t rush (and I had slowed down to nearly a stop, so she didn’t have to), she just looked at me, looked at the cement barrier that was just about head high for her, took a step or two, and leapt. It would have been gorgeous, had her backside not proceeded to rotate as she fell out of sight.

I laughed. What the hell? But then I worried. It’s damn cold out, and there wasn’t a nice little pool of water with some muddy soil beneath to break her fall. (How in the world could she have landed safely? She was somersaulting her way through the air, the last I saw!) My mind immediately jumped to the scenario where I call 911 and ask them to send an officer to put the animal out of its misery because it’s laying there, bleating plaintively, bleeding from a broken leg and a cracked skull.

*shakes head*

(I do get carried away.)

So I pulled into my alley, and pulled right back out of my alley. My car was warm, and I could pull around in the gas station and come back to the other side of the bridge. Maybe the deer wouldn’t even be there? Maybe there would be so much traffic at 12:45 a.m. that getting out of my car to check would just be unrealistic.

There was neither. I got turned around in the right direction again, pulled the car out, and like an idiot, got out to peer over the edge of the bridge to see if there was a lump of venison on the ice. There was not! There was a dizzy, disoriented deer plodding across the ice toward the bank, not really ready to start dashing through the underbrush, but close.

“Are you okay?”

Yes. I asked the deer if it was okay. It flicked its ear at me, and ignored me. Pretty much normal deer behavior, I assume. There was a big dark area where the deer had presumably “landed” and then lay dazed for a moment before attempting to get up and the heck out of dodge. I thought about taking a picture, but A) dark, and B) with my luck I would have dropped the thing over the bridge, and I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t have been as lucky as the deer. So I walked back to my car, and heard the sound of a freaked out deer running home somewhere warm.

Which is exactly what I did, too.

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Desperately Neglected

Virtually abandoned. I’m not sure why, since I generally have things coming out of my mouth that I could put here.

So I’ll start with this article I marked Saved for Later in my Feedly (awesome RSS service, btw – I only have to visit one site to read all my stories). It’s by Chuck Wendig, which means the language is flavorful, but I really like it. Of course I mainly write female leads. It’s a timely reminder that my girls can be whatever I want them to be – soft, sexy, fierce, scared, nervous – but I need to show my daughter that they’re also strong.

‘Cause if I don’t, why should I expect anyone else to?

Minecraft is also front and center in my world. I don’t even want to apologize for it anymore. (I did for a while. Now, no.) It’s a lot of fun. I’ve started a rambly bit where I just gush about it pretty frequently, but I’ll keep it away from here. (If you really want to see, though…)

I’m editing. Actually editing. Every Tuesday I meet up with a group of (usually) three others and we trade stuff. I’m starting to think about my audience, trying to decide how important the things others disagree with are to me to see if they’ll stick, and (as previously mentioned) working on my character. I’ve only managed two chapters so far, but I think I’m on the right track. I’m excited, too, because when this is all polished up, it’s going to rock my world. :) I hope to start posting more about this process on IVEYbooks. We’ll see.

That’s good. Hopefully I’ll be able to write more when I’m not up to my neck in sixteen other projects. Hope everyone is doing well, and reading lots of books and ready to read some of mine soon. <3

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Happy Birthday to Me

Yep, it’s my birthday. Usually I look forward to it, but this year, I just kind of want it to be over. I couldn’t even tell you exactly why.

I’ve turned 37. I feel old until I remember how young I’ll be when my kids graduate high school, and that helps. I didn’t do much today, just slept in and played Minecraft with the kids. Now everyone’s asleep and I’m watching some of the movies I had purchased on Black Friday. A pretty quiet day. Not at all celebratory, and that’s okay.

I had a moment today with Goodreads, and I’m not even certain why. I felt like deleting my account and starting from scratch, so I did. It probably is going to play havoc with my author profile, but I guess I’ll deal with that. I look forward to the day when you can have all your pseudonyms attached to one account. Not that I have very many right now – just two – but I do have another one planned.

And I need to get back to updating my publishing website. I’m not very good at interacting with people, I’m afraid, and so that’s difficult for me. I still try pretty hard to separate work from life, and I probably shouldn’t so much. Well, this is what works for me so far, I suppose.

It’s been an okay 2015 so far. I look forward to going back to work, and hope my son gets over his cold soon. I just remembered I didn’t make the kids practice today, and tomorrow it’s laundry so they probably won’t get it done then, either. I did try pretty hard to make sure it was a daily event over break, but not quite hard enough. Hopefully I did more good than bad.

Well, I suppose it’s not much of an update, but it’s a little one at least. Small updates to get me back in the habit.

Happy Birthday to me.

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Everything is “last year” today

Happy New Year!

I’m so glad it’s 2015. I wasn’t necessarily looking forward to it, and it didn’t sneak up on me too badly, but still – I’m glad it’s here.

In 2015 I am going to try to keep track of quite a few things. I made a list, even, and I’m going to transform that list into a flyer and hopefully booklet. I want to polish the booklet so that by the end of the year I have the best version of it so I can publish it and have an actual, physical book to hold in my hand. I think monthly might be best, since I do have a couple months of the year dedicated to specific activities (*cough*November*cough*).

I have set resolutions for the year, sort of. It seems that resolutions these days are things to be mocked, that the people making them are favored targets for cynics. There have been quite a few jokes on Facebook, and for a while I thought I’d better not mention that I look forward to them every year. Because yeah, I fit the joke. I do it for a week or a day, and then drop off the wagon. Life gets in the way, and I don’t go to the gym every day, and I don’t watch what I eat, and I don’t <insert whatever it is I said I would do here>.

Oh well! I’m still setting resolutions, so I’m going to shrug off the negativity and plow forward.

I have “A” goals and “B” goals this year, and a series of four related words (because I couldn’t decide which of the four I liked best) to drive everything forward. It’s sort of like what Chris at The Art of Non-Conformity does with his Annual Review (which I highly recommend). I have chosen a theme and the things that are most important to me, and I will act with my theme to benefit my goals.

I haven’t decided whether to share the theme or the goals yet, though. Maybe when it’s a little more polished.

Part of my resolutions wasn’t to necessarily write more here, though. I didn’t tear it down, and that’s a positive step. (Tearing the blog down and starting fresh is usually my first inclination when I’ve been gone for a while.) I hope to be using more of what I have, and bringing fewer new things into my home. (Not exactly part of my resolution, but definitely something to remember.)

Well, at any rate. That’s the plan. So if you’re reading and were thinking of making resolutions for the new year but were getting dragged down by negative comments around you, hey. Join me! We can be the cool reject kids who dance to the beat of a poorly trained drummer.

Love, Nicki

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Dental Anxiety

I dislike having dental work; so much so that I haven’t had an appointment in 16 years. Admittedly, I did try about halfway through, I think. I called to make an appointment, may have actually set it, but there were a lot of tears involved and I didn’t go. I know that every time I’ve given serious thought to going in for any work at all I’ve had lovely panic attack-like episodes.

Three weeks ago, though, I lost a bit of tooth. I didn’t realize it until last week, when I found the edge on a tooth that shouldn’t have had one. And that sent me into a new sort of panic. My mom has had root canals before, and they never go well, always getting infected. Surely a hole in a tooth is the next step to one of those!

Pain from the dentist, or pain from not the dentist…

I called the dentist.

Well, I had to find a new one, as my last one is a 2,000+ mile commute. Searching for “sedation dentistry” on Google and then comparing to my insurance, I found someone. It was pretty awesome, actually, because I didn’t have to call a single person. No pre-call anxiety, just a web form, an email, a text, and bam. Appointment made.

Fast-forward from last Wednesday to today, and I actually went to the appointment. My poor kids suffered from my nerves this morning when they got in a fight and I wasn’t prepared to put up with any crap, but I reigned it in for the receptionist. I’m sure everyone was lovely. There were a lot of smiles, just not mine.

I don’t remember ever sitting so stiffly in a waiting room. I’ve learned I can grit my teeth without my top jaw touching my bottom one. I felt guilty for smiling at Kelly and Michael (a show I think I’d rather enjoy–those two are funny!) but did anyway. A little. Then I stopped. (Guilt.)

They finally called me in. I didn’t get any guilt from the hygienist, just an awful lot of x-rays. Last time I went in, you sat still and the x-ray machine moved–one shot. This time there were 18 different pictures and a whole lot of sharp things I had to bite down on. Still, x-rays don’t bother me. Sharp pointy things in my teeth with dentists that don’t believe my protestations of pain, on the other hand, bothers me.

The dentist, a lovely man about my parent’s age, finally arrived. I got to watch lots of HGTV during my wait, so I honestly didn’t mind. The part where I laid back and he went in with the pointy thing and the mirror was the worst. I kept expecting him to poke at things, to test the fillings (as dentists have done), but three cheers–no poking! He even complimented my current fillings, saying he puts in 100-year fillings, and mine look just like ones he would have put in. Um…yay? But then he lowered the boom.

All five of them.

There are four places that need filling, one of them that’s almost down to the nerve. Thank goodness I floss, apparently, because it could have been much worse after 16 years. I think I started that habit after a previously attempted appointment, under the assumption that if I couldn’t get to the dentist, at least I was going to do my best to take care of things myself. I got the guilt trip that the hygienist left out from him as well. Don’t think I can go another 16 years without an appointment just because I was so lucky this time, all my teeth could have fallen out at my age, blah, blah, blah.*

When I could finally get a word in edgewise I pointed out that the reason I didn’t go back was the aforementioned distrust of people working on my teeth not believing my pain levels. He was very reassuring, politely ignoring the tears that finally came, confessing a similar sensitivity. Since I’ve told him, they’ll give me additional numbing meds, and let me sit as long as I want until I’m as numb as I want.

Then, and this is my favorite part, I asked (still sobbing) that if there was anything we could do to reduce my anxiety of the actual appointment. And that was the million-dollar question. I left my appointment with reassurances and an Rx for Valium to take before the appointment.

Oh, and two more appointments. Three fillings on Thursday, one and a cleaning two weeks later. I’ve got a ride lined up to get me to the appointment, and fingers crossed that the Rx work as promised.

I’ve got to say, I am almost kind of happy I finally have the appointment. I’m definitely glad I’ve been flossing as much as I have, and I’m even more hopeful about my kid’s dental habits. (Overall, they’re pretty good. I think we need to work on technique, but the twice a day plus floss habit is there.)

That’s not to say that I’m looking forward to Thursday. I’m looking forward to Thursday being over. But I have plenty of time to worry about that tomorrow.


*Yes, I am over-dramatizing. But there was rotting teeth in the conversation with people in their 30’s.